Ta-daa its valentine’s day – that magical time of year when the entire social media conspires to keep reminding of how we should be head-over-heels in love with “the one,” and (of course) be gifting or receiving a lot of chocolates, roses, and diamonds!
Rather than letting it be a day to celebrate love, V-Day (and the month of advertising leading up to it) seems to be all about reinforcing ideas of the ideal romantic love! But, does this fairy-tale self-induced concept belong so high on the pedestal?
I say the whole idea behind it is stupid! I remember how I used to go all gaga about this day in my teens, but somehow with the over expectations around this day, it was always not-so-special! In the quest for celebrating this day, we make this ‘Day Of Love’ bigger than LOVE itself?
Which led me to realize how entirely ridiculous the whole Valentine’s fiasco is! I have a never-ending list, but here’s a narrowed down version:
1. Teddy Bears:
Yes, you read it right, that’s the number one reason why this day is ridiculous, getting one more gigantic ‘Teddy Bear’ holding a ‘red-heart’ saying ‘I Love You’!
#PointToRemember: It very cute-sweet-awesome to get in once because we gush over it, parade it in front of our girlfriends and also talk to it on our lonely and drunk nights. But that’s about it!
2. The I am single realization:
Of course, we are aware that we were single the day before, the month before or the whole effing century before. But this dreadful day is a clear reminder that no one is planning a sweet-exotic date for us, like the one we saw in the movie, an hour before…..damn those romcoms!
3. Stressful Couples:
The stress of planning the V-day well is one horrendous story in itself!! For the lovey-dovey couples who just started going out and for the ones who are celebrating their umpteenth Valentines, this day spares no one.
4. A day in the life for love:
Like seriously? Isn’t true love about spoiling and pampering your beloved all year long?
5. It’s Competetive:
I don’t know what is this day in a man’s world, but in the girl-social-media-universe, it’s Game-On time!
You might be a yogini in search of mental-peace and is above comparing, but when you dial up your BFF shit does get real.
“Did you see what did she get as a V-day gift, or who got that designer dress, who went to the luxurious spa or whose guy declared his undying love for her in front of the whole world!”
Even we don’t wanna be a part of it!
6. It’s red and pink everywhere:
Monochrome is taken way too seriously. It’s red-n-pink every-dam-where. To add up you can spot heart-shaped balloons, sparkly ribbons, I-love-you cakes, I-heart-you cookies, chocolates and more chocolates and even confetti are in the shape of hearts! *Ugghhhh*
The world seems like a big red bubblegum that you wish explodes.
7. Cupid is really creepy:
A man dressed like a baby with wings, wearing a diaper, following two people who are made for each other, and shooting them with arrows? You gotta be kidding!
8. It’s not even a holiday!!
To everyone calling it a pointless holiday or the love-day holiday, it’s not even a real holiday!! Like common you still gotta go to work!
9. The big proposal:
The big question being popped up on V-day? Ummmmmmm, lil tacky I must say!
If your guy proposes on 14th Feb, it’s totally acceptable to say NO!
“Like find a better date. I am not sharing my(our) most special day with millions!”
Don’t feel bad about saying it gal, he had it coming.
Just kidding…….. or not! Okay totally kidding….
I hate all those things because they are spoiling my most favorite day by making it about everything else!
What Valentine’s really is about:
If you’ve happened to watch the movie We Bought a Zoo, you not only saw a hot Matt Damon and the stunner that Scarlett Johansson is, but you also got to witness the perfect definition of courage. Damon’s character gives his son the most important advice, “You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally 20 seconds of just embarrassing bravery and I promise you, something great will come of it.”
This is what Valentine’s Day is really about. Mustering up 20 seconds of courage and telling someone you like them, you love them, you think they’re pretty and cute — or whatever it is that you’re feeling.
It’s not about gifts or where you go for dinner, it’s not about roses and chocolates, it’s about LOVE!
It doesn’t even have to be about romantic love. If you are single this time of the year, that’s because it was meant to be this way!
Forget about the heart balloons in the mall or the expensive roses ready to die soon. This Valentine’s Day, remember to celebrate love even self-love!