Blake Lively‘s baby bump is international news for the second time, Meira Rajput Kapoor and Arpita Khan having recently embraced motherhood are beyond doubt the happiest mommies in the world and on the other hand guessing Kareena Kapoor Khan had a hearty meal or is that a baby bump is daily crossword puzzle for us!! Well, that’s just public’s appetite for celeb-babies and it’s insatiable.
But, also there is mounting pressure on women to have babies. Get married in 20’s, deliver babies in 30’s, is the golden rule the world abides by! Maybe the woman wants to wait till she’s settled, maybe she wants to adopt, maybe she can’t get pregnant or maybe she chooses just not to… EVER! This blog post is about 10 such famous women who rebel against society’s claim of the strong linkage between femininity and motherhood.
So, here they are 10 smart, powerful, funny and endearing women who said NO, thank you to the decision of being a parent and took the road less diapered:
“It’s so much more work to have children. To have lives besides your own that you are responsible for — I didn’t take that on. That did make things easier for me. A baby — that’s all day, every day for eighteen years … Not having a baby might really make things easier, but that doesn’t make it an easy decision. I like protecting people, but I was never drawn to being a mother. I have it much easier than any of them. That’s just what it is. Doesn’t mean life isn’t sometimes hard. I’m just what I am. I work on what I am. Right now, I think, things are good for me. I’ve done a lot. And I don’t care anymore.” in, Esquire .
Having struggled with sexual abuse as a child, she had a baby at the age 14 who ended up dying at the hospital several weeks later. The Former Talk show host feels that balancing her career and children would have been a tough task. “If I had kids, my kids would hate me … They would have ended up on the equivalent of the Oprah show talking about me; because something [in my life] would have had to suffer and it would’ve probably been them.” in, The Hollywood Reporter .
“This continually is said about me: that I was so career-driven and focused on myself; that I don’t want to be a mother, and how selfish that is. I don’t think it’s fair. You may not have a child come out of your vagina, but that doesn’t mean that you aren’t mothering – dogs, friends, friends’ children. I don’t like [the pressure] that people put on me, on women, that you’ve failed yourself as a female because you haven’t procreated. It’s quite rude, insulting, and ignorant.” in, allure .
Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi
The most popular lesbian power couple of Hollywood announced that they didn’t intend to have children and don’t regret not having them.
“We just decided we like our conversations not being interrupted and our furniture without sticky grape juice on it”. – Ellen in, People.
“There comes some pressure in your mid-30s, and you think, ‘Am I going to have kids so I don’t miss out on something that other people really seem to love? Or is it that I really genuinely want to do this with my whole heart?’ I didn’t feel that my response was ‘yes’ to the latter. You have to really want to have kids, and neither of us did. So it’s just going to be me and Ellen and no babies.” – Portia, in, Out.
The 45-year-old comedian confesses that her heart aches to be a mother. “It’s a sadness for me because I love kids. I ache for kids. But I love my life more. You can’t have it all; you really can’t”. The fear of passing on her depression to her children, if she’ll ever have any, petrifies her. “I want to have kids when there’s nothing else I want more, and I can make them my world.”
“I’m a woman of a certain age who doesn’t have kids and never really settled down … I enjoy kids but not for long periods. I think they’re adorable and funny and sweet, and then I have a headache. I realized that so much of the pressure I was feeling was from outside sources, and I knew I wasn’t ready to take that step into motherhood. Being a biological mother just isn’t part of my experience this time around.” in, The Advocate and O Magazine .
“I’m completely happy not having children. I mean, everybody does not have to live in the same way. And as somebody said, ‘Everybody with a womb doesn’t have to have a child any more than everybody with vocal cords has to be an opera singer.” in, Chelsea Lately .
Dita von Teese
“My sisters have children. I love children but at this stage of my life … I was married to someone (Marilyn Manson)who was not cut-out to be a father. He could hardly take care of himself, let alone a child, so I changed my views, adapted accordingly, thought: ‘It’s OK not to have children.’ Now I’m just going to watch how my life unfolds and see what happens. I’m not going to be less of a person if I don’t have children. It will work out the way it is supposed to.” in, The Independent .
“The fact is that I have chosen not to have children because I believe the children who are already here are really mine, too. I do not need to go making ‘my own’ babies when there are so many orphaned or abandoned children who need love, attention, time, and care. I have felt this way since I was at least eighteen and I had an argument about it with a childhood friend…I figured it was selfish for us to pour our resources into making our ‘own’ babies when those very resources and energy could not only help children already here, but through advocacy and service transform the world into a place where no child ever needs to be born into poverty and abuse again. My belief has not changed. It is a big part of who I am.” in, All That Is Bitter And Sweet .